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We all have interactions with difficult people in our lives. No matter where we go or what we do, there is always at least one micromanager, bully, or narcissist. More than likely, we will be impacted by their oppression rather than triumphing over their tactics. This keeps us in check, and as a result, we attempt to reduce, even avoid, encounters of the threatening kind. Why? Because we do not know how to approach or deal with them in a way that will benefit us. Avoidance will get us nowhere. We need interactions and other influencers to get to where we want to be in life.

How? Lay the foundation from within. Draw from learnings, observations, and values so that you can anticipate—even steer—the outcome of your interactions in an empowered manner. This process is called L.O.V.E. (Learn, Observe, Value & Empower).

For this book to be effective, you must commit to honesty as each chapter encourages you to dive deeper into what makes you and them tick. Examples, recommendations, and a few exercises will guide you toward success without having to read scholarly textbooks on psychology. This guide was written by an average woman, who, turns out, isn’t average at all. Neither are you.

IMPACT your world and get ready to leave your mark—and your adversary behind.

What defines you?

Have you ever given this any thought?

In this memoir, I wondered if my strict childhood, my naivety as an immigrant, my insecurities in standing up for myself and others, or my struggles to find my voice in corporate America were my defining moments. But then it struck me:

Who defines you? was a much better question to ask. In my case, was it Daddy Dearest, who made all the rules, or The Alcoholic, who controlled my every move, or The Narcissistic Bully, who only cared about himself, or The Distrusting CEO, who heard what I had to say, but who didn’t listen? And what about The Guardian, who helped rebuild my trust in men, The Boys, who taught me about unconditional love, or The Soulmate, who simply let me be me?

DICKOTOMY acknowledges the importance of the Ricks and Dicks in every woman’s life.

Ultimately, it is up to us to decide who we truly are.


I am excited to continue with fiction as it is an avenue that will allow me to reach more readers. I get to be more creative, allowing my mind to go anywhere. And trust me, it’s gone to some awesome places already. Below is some information on what is in the works.


(This is my first fiction book, and it’s a psychological thriller.)

Claudia finds herself in a cabin, imprisoned and without any memory of who she is or her past. She must maneuver through very unfamiliar territory in her effort to escape her prison in the woods with a captor who tells her he’s there to protect her. In the meantime, her friends are frantically trying to discover what happened to Claudia while dealing with their own guilt. Can Claudia get back before she is lost forever?

REBORN (Title subject to change) – CONCEPT ONLY

(This is going to be a series of books!!!!)

How many times can you be reborn? It’s something Tasha begins to ponder as she re-awakens in a different world every time she dies. Tasha has the nagging feeling that the time allowed to figure out her purpose seems to decrease with each sudden death. Can she figure out the end game? Or is she stuck in a never-ending loop?

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